Advice for Women – Female Sexuality, Insights & Tips!

Dating is just a precursor to something else, hopefully to the much-awaited next level. Whether you want to become exclusive or to get that ring around your finger, you shouldn’t just sit there and wait for the guy to do all the work. Here are some tips on how you can gently nudge your man to the next level of your relationship.

From dating around to dating one

If you want to go exclusive but you’re not sure if he’s really into you, try sending the signs that nothing has been set in stone yet. Try casually mentioning something like how the guy in the office seems to be on the verge of asking you out. If your guy wants to lay claim on you, he will react and seal the deal with you. But be careful though, letting on that you are quite busy with other guys can spark the wrong kind of impression about you.

From seeing someone to with someone

If you feel the word “like” morphing into another L word, then maybe it’s time to kick things up a notch. Even though guys freak out when they hear the L word, there is one thing that they fall for: compliments. Layer these up and sprinkle it with the L word such as “I love how you smell in the morning” while looking longingly in his eyes. You can also be more expressive in showing your appreciation for his efforts in showing that he really cares for you, such as wearing condoms for safer sex. Who knows, he may even beat you to saying it out loud.

From with someone right now to with someone forever

Steering your relationship to the road to marriage is a little difficult as men balk at the thought of settling down. You can start by hinting how you would like to have more fun with him when you move in together. If he looks forward to being with you forever, he’ll definitely pop the question.

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You’re probably hearing that Avenue Q song about the Internet and porn in your head right now. Thanks to the Internet, your partner seems to be on the computer forever, watching porn and looking at pictures of barely-clad women. Should you be bothered by this?

No.

Especially if you also watch porn, though not as enthusiastic as guys seem to be. Sometimes, you have to look at it this way: asking a guy to stop looking at porn sounds like asking you to stop watching those romance movies or TV drama shows. Porn is one form of visual entertainment like sports and action movies that guys enjoy. Just like how you know that the leading men in your favorite TV dramas are just actors, guys (most of them anyway) know that what they see on porn with all those ladies playing around with anal toys is just for show.

Yes.

If it seems to be replacing the act and enjoyment that you both should be feeling, then it may be time to slow down on the porn marathon. If your sex life is slowly becoming dependent on what’s on the porn channel, then it’s just right to talk and lay down some ground rules.

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A lot of girls often find themselves obsessing about what to wear and how to look on a date as they want to make the perfect impressions.  Aside from dressing appropriately based on how and where you two are going, there are other things that you should consider when picking out an outfit.  The question of how much skin to show is one that you should think over before going out.  After all, you are going out on a date, and not on a sex game marathon.

Be sexy, not skanky

Guys are all for the feminine form.  However, it there’s little left to the imagination, then they might think other things about you (unless that’s your objective).  Don’t try too hard when playing up your assets like showing too much cleavage or wearing the shortest skirt possible.  Give him glimpses to keep his attention instead of baring it all with the full show.

Be interesting

Choose colors and designs that flatter your assets instead of wearing drab pieces.  If you prefer going monochromatic with your clothes, break the boredom with a funky piece of accessory that you can even talk about.

Be comfortable

Being sexy doesn’t mean trying really hard to endure three hours in 5-inch stilettos.  While it’s true that beauty knoweth no pain, you can come across as more alluring if you’re in your most comfortable element.  Find clothes and shoes that exude sexiness without having to induce any torture on you.

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If you’re one of those How I Met Your Mother fanatics, I’m sure you melted in the “Ten Sessions” episode where Ted impressed his doctor Stella (and us) with a two-minute complete date to fit with her busy schedule. Though it may be hard to do the same in real life, there are other ways to get creative when it comes to dates. Though guys mostly work hard to make the first impression, the ladies can also lend a hand to make a date memorable. Here are just a few unusual places where you can spend your date in.

A cemetery

If you and your guy are goth-types, a cemetery may just be the place where you can have that ideal date. Here, you can get to talk more and not be disturbed by anyone else. Bring a spread and have a simple picnic. If you’re both hobbyists, bring out the parchment paper and the pencils to take some grave rubbings.

A large open cornfield

Plunk down on a sofa, a TV, and a scary movie in the middle of the cornfield and you both will have the most memorable life-like screamfest ever, especially if you see weird shadows around you.

A hobby store

If you both like doing a hobby or are into those DIY things, you can go into a hobby store and pick out one kit that you can build together. Build this item over a period of time, sharing tips and tricks and getting to know each other better. At the end of the project, you’ll definitely have something else to share with him aside from the love of the craft.

By coming up with a unique idea for a date place, you’ll make the day more memorable for the both of you. Instead of just a regular movie date and ending up in bed with all those cheap sex toys, an unusual date at the cemetery, cornfield, or hobby store can help keep things more full of surprises.

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It may be one drunken night or when you both were feeling the heat more than usual and you find yourself pulling off your clothes, tumbling into bed with your friend, and thinking of naughty sex games. Alarm bells start to sound in your mind, will this ruin our friendship? Well, there’s only two ways to go about it.

Not really.

See, if it was really time to take the friendship to another level, then this would be the perfect scenario for both of you. A lot of relationships start out as great friendships and maybe it was just time to put into action what your hormones and your hearts have been telling you.

Yes, it does.

But what if one of you just feels it was just the alcohol or the pheromones doing the deed last night? Aside from a broken heart (either yours or your friend’s) well, it just wouldn’t be the same again. If both of you can just shrug it off and move on with your lives, well, it’s better.

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So you’ve passed the first and the second dates.  You’ve had fun and you seriously think that the guy is totally into you, so you look forward for the next time you’ll spend together.  But, gasp!  It’s the third date!  You’ve held on to your panties for the first and the second one, but by the third time, guys, and even some of your galpals think that you shouldn’t even be wearing those, and that your date better be equipped with condoms.  Is this an ironclad-rule that you should follow?

Even if society opens up with the liberties that people want to experience, you shouldn’t feel pressured to go to bed with someone just because it’s the third date.  You can get to know each other in different ways aside from exploring each other’s bodies.  However, if you both feel the time is right, whether it’s the third, the seventh or the ninth date, then by all means, let that attraction lead to something better.

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There are times when making love seems to come naturally. You feel the urge. The ambience is perfect and the timing’s right. But then again, there are also those days when you’d rather just snuggle with a book or spend some time alone. The mood’s not there, and there seems to be nothing you can do about it.

This situation gets hard when your partner happens to be in the mood. One missed encounter or two may not mean a lot, but when this happens too often, it may affect your relationship. So what are you to do?

For one thing, you can set aside time to “make” the mood. Make this time count, regardless of your hormonal “reality.” A bubble bath, candles and wine can overpower your “not being in the mood” and create the perfect ambience for the perfect lovemaking. Using sexual aids such as pleasure beads may also help you get in the mood.

If all else fails and you really can’t, try to make up for it. Be there for your partner and try to give them the sexual satisfaction that he wants — even when you’re not getting some back.

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The enduring partnership among couples is partly dependent on the quality time they share with each other. With some quality time, partners can reconnect and catch up on each other’s lives. You and your partner may not have the time to engage in elaborate sex games every night, so reconnection — amidst daily routines, chores, work, and family responsibilities — is important for keeping the passion in the relationship alive.

Of course, this is easier said than done. We tend to fill up our lives with so many things. And because of this, getting together with our partners for some quality time can be hard.

Just how can you sneak in some quality time with your partner? Here are a few tips:

1. Do some of your chores together: Shopping for groceries, doing the laundry, and finishing other household tasks can be opportunites for you to share time with your partner. Remember to have the right attitude and share the work load with him.

2. Get with the new technology: Conveniences like webcams, cellphones, and instant messaging can mean extra time with your partner even when you’re away or busy with work.

3. Promise the last 30 minutes to an hour right before going to sleep to your partner: You can use this time not just to have sex but also to talk and cuddle.

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According to a 2001 survey by Durex, American couples living together have sex about 146 times per year. At roughly 52 weeks in a year, that statistic translates to having sex for two to three times a week.

Of course, it is not really healthy to compare yourself with others. When it comes to sex, there are no black and white areas. It really is a very subjective topic. No one should be judged on how and when they have sex.

So how would you know if often is too often. Just consider how you feel. If you still feel sore with each sexual interval, you may not be giving your body enough time to rest. You also use muscles when having sex and these may experience some tearing because of it. They need to recover. Likewise, if you feel as if you’re losing excitement when it comes to playing sex games, maybe you’re just having too much of it. Remember, too much of any thing is bad for you.

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Public display of affection (PDA) can be such a cute thing. Who wouldn’t want to see a loving couple show how much they love each other, right? But then again, it can be too much for some people. Some instances of PDAs can become too bothersome that you may want to scream “Get a room!” at the couple.

So what is too much PDA? Well, just be mindful of your location and the people around you. Obviously, in a church, a lingering kiss may be too much. However, when you’re in a club with your close friends, this kind of kiss might be perfectly all right. Use the sensibilities of other people as the context for determining what is acceptable PDA and what is not.

When publicly displaying affection, just remember to be aware of your environment. It might be easy to lose ourselves in the moment, but we can surely try not to. After all, there are other more suitable venues for demonstrating our passion to our partners. When in the bedroom, you and your partner can get as wild as you can and even use sex toys to make things more exciting. But when in public, remember to maintain a healthy level of respect for the other people around you.

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