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Five Masturbation Secrets Men Do not Want Women to Know

Angie Johnson — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 08:26:47 +0000

If you think that your boyfriend or husband has stopped masturbating because you already have a very active and very satisfying sex life, then you couldn’t be more wrong. Are you interested to discover the facts about male masturbation since you feel uncomfortable asking about them from your partner? Well, read on and find out what he’s been keeping from you.

1. Most men masturbate. Yes, even men who are in healthy, monogamous relationships masturbate. It doesn’t mean though that he’s not satisfied with you in bed. For all you know, he could be thinking about the hot times he’s been having with you every time he masturbates.

2. Men have different masturbatory techniques. Some men prefer short and jerky hand movements. Others prefer long and steady strokes.

3. There’s more to masturbation than stroking the shaft. Believe it or not, some men find it more pleasurable to insert their fingers in their ass when they masturbate. When they do indulge in finger play, they are aiming for their prostate, which, when properly stimulated, can lead to more satisfying orgasms. This is the reason for the increasing popularity of sex toys for men such as dildos.

4. Some men also prefer to use lubricants when masturbating. Using a lubricant adds to the sensation during masturbation. Using lubricants allows their hands to glide freely as they stroke their penises.

5. Men can have the urge to masturbate at any time and at any place. They do it in restrooms, their office cubicles, and other places where they can be alone or can’t be seen.

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Is It All Right to Give Sex Toys as Gifts?

Angie Johnson — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 05:52:00 +0000

More and more couples are starting to find out the advantages of using sex toys to spice up their lovemaking. However, there are times that buying sex toys is considered embarrassing. Similarly, being given a sex toy might also elicit awkward reactions from the recipient and the people around him or her.

When thinking of giving a sex toy for women or a sex toy for men as a gift, you have to consider the personality of the person. If you are giving it as a gift to someone other than your partner, consider if your friend will appreciate such a gift. Of course, an individual with conservative values might be offended to receive a sex toy. However, if he or she has a sense of humor and is open about it, then this person might just laugh it off and appreciate your effort.

Another thing to remember when giving a sex toy is to make it discreet. If you are giving it to your partner, give the gift in the bedroom or just ask him or her to open that gift during your private time.

When looking for sex toys as gifts, you can check out online sex toy reviews. Doing so can help you choose the most appropriate gift among the various adult toys in the market.

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Your First Sex Toy

Angie Johnson — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 05:12:28 +0000

Do you remember your first sex toy? Or are you on the verge of just getting your first one? Whatever the case, your first sex toy is sure to be a memorable personal item.

For one thing, your first toy is your partner in sexual exploration, and it doesn’t matter if you’re single or not. With a sex toy, you get to know yourself better, sexually. Many women use them to explore the conditions that lead to orgasm, and they eventually learn to feel more comfortable with their sexual selves.

What’s the best “first sex toy”? Well, there’s no universal best as it really depends on your preferences. If you’re unsure of this, you can try the “starter” toys in the market. These include simple vibrators and small dildos. Simple vibrators and dildos are discreet items; they are slimmer and less “intimidating.” Some have even been designed to look like pens or lipstick.

The idea behind getting sex toys is to accustom yourself first with the somewhat different sensations you receive from using them. Sex toys can seem weird to a newbie, so taking it slow and simple may be the best thing to do.

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Your First Orgasm at 40?

Angie Johnson — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 04:59:06 +0000

Gone are the days when sex is viewed solely to make babies. People have become more liberal about their views on sex and the pleasure they derive from doing it. So, it comes as a surprise that there are still women who, whether during sex or during masturbation, have not had an orgasm. And, believe it or not, some of these women are in their 40s.

Fact is, some of us women have the wrong notion of what an orgasm feels like. There may also be emotional barriers that prevent us from experiencing an orgasm. These barriers can range from feelings of insecurities in bed, thinking that sex is a dirty deed, and not just being relaxed during sex.

First, sex is a two-way street — you and your partner should feel good doing it. In short, both of you should have an orgasm. If you haven’t experienced an orgasm after sex, ask yourself what made sex somehow unpleasurable. Does your partner stop after he or she climaxes and leaves you hanging? Are you way too preoccupied pleasuring him and forgetting your own sexual needs? Perhaps, talking this over with your partner can solve this predicament. You can also suggest to your partner if you can incorporate sexual aids such as anal toys into your lovemaking. Who knows, these toys might help pave the way to an incredible orgasm for both you and your companion.

Second, sex with your partner is never a dirty deed. Just as long as you and your partner agree on what works for you both in bed, then sex can be exciting.

Third, just relax and go with the flow. When you’re relaxed, you enjoy sex more and you definitely will have an orgasm. To stay relaxed in bed means that you have to be in tune with your body’s sexual urges. Sometimes, women masturbate to find out what’s pleasurable and what’s not. And, just like sex, masturbation is not a dirty act.

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Toys in the Bedroom

Angie Johnson — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 04:58:07 +0000

Does talking about toys in the bedroom make you feel icky? Or, do you get excited by it — regardless of whether you’ve used one or not? Well, it’s perfectly normal. Not everyone is open or comfortable to the idea of using toys in the bedroom. But, for those of us who are, toys in the bedroom can add spice to our sex lives.

There are many advantages to using toys in the bedroom. Personally, whether you have a partner or not, adult toys can be used in personal exploration. Getting to know our bodies is one of the keys to have a fulfilling sex life. Once you know how to please yourself, you can be a better guide to your partner.

When used with your partner, sex toys are amazing tools to spice up your intimate encounters. You get to explore each other’s sexuality. At the same time, there is that underlying bond that develops between you. You become more comfortable and trusting of each other. So the next time you and your partner want to explore each other, experiment with various bedroom toys such as dongs or pleasure beads.

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The Joy of the Hitachi Magic Wand

Angie Johnson — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 04:56:29 +0000

The Hitachi Magic Wand is an amazing sex toy. It is actually one of the best choices among the pleasure products and sex toy deals in the market.

Why is it one of the best? Well, it is powered by electricity, so you save on battery purchases. This is great for the environment if you are more likely to use disposable batteries. At the same time, you can expect your toy to “perform” as long as you, without fluctuations. And of course, the Hitachi Magic Wand is great in stimulating the clitoris. Its tennis ball head hits the right spot.

If you want more than clitoral vibrations, the Magic Wand has several attachment options. You get to choose from several phallic attachments. These vary in length, girth, and design. There’s a perfect attachment suitable to your sexual preferences. Plus, these add-ons are not limited to one manufacturer. With the popularity of the Magic Wands, several makers have come out with various attachments that fit perfectly with the head of the Hitachi Magic Wand.

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Is Masturbation a Crime?

Angie Johnson — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 06:05:37 +0000

Masturbation is widely believed to be a sin, but a crime it is not. Studies have shown that masturbatory-like acts can be observed in children as young as 2 years old, indicating that this is something humans are inclined to do and most of us tend to like doing even into adulthood.

The mainstream view is that there is nothing wrong with masturbation or the thoughts that go with it — fantasizing about sexual scenarios while you touch yourself. Masturbation is a natural way for sexual release, and sex experts even advocate mutual masturbation as one way for couples to get sexually intimate safely (i.e., without the risk of getting pregnant or getting some types of STDs). Another reason why most experts tend to favor this form of sexual gratification is because it is one way for those without partners to release sexual tension. It is also a way to discover yourself and your sexual needs so that you can communicate this better to your partner. As a matter of fact, mutual masturbation with the use of sex toys such as love dolls and dildos is a healthy way to enhance relationships.

The bottomline — masturbation is safe and is not an indicator of any problem unless it is linked to an existing obsessive-compulsive disorder.

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Female Forum 101: Self-exploration

Angie Johnson — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 05:50:51 +0000

In the past, we may have been taught to shun our sexuality. We were supposed to be conservative housewives who kowtow to the needs of our husbands. In these modern times, we have become independent and self-sufficient, in and out of bed.

However, sex is still a difficult topic to discuss. Just how does a woman experience sex? Is there an “acceptable” standard? Are we all supposed to act like total hos? Or, are we still expected to have some restraint?

The answer is neither. We are free to be whoever we are in bed. The main goal is that we enjoy sex, in whatever way we need to.

This is easier said than done, of course. There is still that persistent veil when it comes to our sexual parts — figuratively and literally.

Literally, it does not help that our major erogenous areas are hidden. Unlike men who have easy access to their “thing,” our sexual organs are deep and are buried within folds of skin. It’s not so easy for a woman to explore and get to know herself sexually. But then, this is an important step in liberating the “real you” in bed and allowing yourself to enjoy sex more. Some experts suggest using adult toys as aids in self-exploration.

Begin to take the initial steps in this journey and, surely, you’ll enjoy what you find at the end of the road.

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