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Top Five Signs That You Need to Spice Up Your Marriage

Angie Johnson — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 06:53:03 +0000

While it is good to be responsible when you’re married especially if you have children, you should still remember that the things you do with your husband may become quite a routine and boring. Bringing back the fun or the “spice” in your marriage just might save your relationship. Here are some signs that you both need to evaluate your relationship and make it more fun and romantic:

1. You two are no longer intimate, either physically or emotionally, and sometimes even both.
2. You either fight all the time or do not have the energy to argue.
3. You rarely talk to each other, aside from uttering the usual niceties.
4. Seeing your spouse no longer excites you or does not even make you smile.
5. Your lives have become monotonous, with no signs of the usual romantic relationship.

If you are experiencing one or more of the above, you need to know that it is time to have a heartfelt talk with your spouse. If you truly care about your marriage, find ways to bring back the romantic and fun times you have had together.

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Planning the Perfect Getaway with Your Partner

Angie Johnson — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 01:22:12 +0000

A getaway is great for bonding with your partner. It can also be a source of relaxation for the both of you, especially in this fast-paced world. A relaxing yet romantic vacation can do wonders for your relationship. You should plan the details together. This way, the trip fits both of your schedules and tastes.

The perfect location

What sort of guy is he? The answer to this question will guide you as to where you should go. If he is the sporty sort, he might go for sunny locations with plenty of outdoor fun or even snowy slopes. If you are both up for adventure and a taste of culture, you can find a place that will be hopping with special celebrations on your visit.

The right budget

As much as splurging can create an unforgettable vacation, resist the temptation. Go for great deals. You do not want to be fighting long after the getaway is over. A perfect getaway can be arranged on a budget. What is important is the splash of personality and activity that will define it.

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How to Make Your Anniversary Extra Special

Angie Johnson — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 01:16:36 +0000

Usually when guys think of what a girl wants for their anniversary, they think that she just wants some bling. Little do they know that not all women are equating anniversaries to pricey gifts and upscale restaurants. Women just want their men to treat the day special. As for the ladies, they should not take their men for granted, either. Some men can be quite the sensitive type. In fact, the role can be reverse in some relationships.

The perfect gift

While you don’t have to give your man a BMW, you should not be cheap either. Think of an unusual anniversary gift. Men have already been bombarded with socks, ties and the like. Buy your man something that will make him feel special. An original gift or keepsake can make your man enjoy the celebration much better. Why not try creating your anniversary gift for him? If you are not the DIY crafts girl, you can have something engraved for him.

The perfect look

Dress appropriately. Show that you are making an effort to make the day feel and look special.

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Making your Anniversary Special

Angie Johnson — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 00:59:41 +0000

Us girls are sticklers for details when it comes to the special dates with our significant other. So now that you’ve reached your first year with your beau, you plan on celebrating this date in a special way. Sure, there’s the customary dinner or movie date but since this is a date to remember, kick up the romance level a bit higher to make sure that you’ll be celebrating more anniversaries in the future. Here are just a few suggestions on how you can make your anniversary extra-special.

Breakfast in bed

Guys and girls alike just melt when they wake up to a tray of breakfast goodies laid out on a tray and carried over to bed. If you usually rush every morning with nary a peck to your guy, he’ll surely appreciate this morning when you bring in his favorite waffles to bed. Who knows, breakfast may even be better with a morning nookie, with you and your partner ending up playing with strap on sex toys until the afternoon.

Take the day off from work

If you can afford to take off the day from work, do so. Apply for an advanced vacation leave or call in sick. Spend the day with your man and do stuff that you both enjoy. And remember, turn off your cellphone and get as far away from the computer so you can totally enjoy your special day.

Pop in that first movie or song to that first dance

Put your great memory to good use and pop in that special song that you first danced with him. Or you can rent that movie that you saw on your first date.

Do something to mark the day

If you’re both the active-types, plan a hike and plant a flag or a tree on your favorite summit to mark your anniversary. If crafts and DIY kits are both your thing, do a project together.

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Dating: Taking it to the Next Level

Angie Johnson — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 00:55:29 +0000

Dating is just a precursor to something else, hopefully to the much-awaited next level. Whether you want to become exclusive or to get that ring around your finger, you shouldn’t just sit there and wait for the guy to do all the work. Here are some tips on how you can gently nudge your man to the next level of your relationship.

From dating around to dating one

If you want to go exclusive but you’re not sure if he’s really into you, try sending the signs that nothing has been set in stone yet. Try casually mentioning something like how the guy in the office seems to be on the verge of asking you out. If your guy wants to lay claim on you, he will react and seal the deal with you. But be careful though, letting on that you are quite busy with other guys can spark the wrong kind of impression about you.

From seeing someone to with someone

If you feel the word “like” morphing into another L word, then maybe it’s time to kick things up a notch. Even though guys freak out when they hear the L word, there is one thing that they fall for: compliments. Layer these up and sprinkle it with the L word such as “I love how you smell in the morning” while looking longingly in his eyes. You can also be more expressive in showing your appreciation for his efforts in showing that he really cares for you, such as wearing condoms for safer sex. Who knows, he may even beat you to saying it out loud.

From with someone right now to with someone forever

Steering your relationship to the road to marriage is a little difficult as men balk at the thought of settling down. You can start by hinting how you would like to have more fun with him when you move in together. If he looks forward to being with you forever, he’ll definitely pop the question.

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When Vanilla Isn’t Enough Anymore

Angie Johnson — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 06:52:22 +0000

Preferences of couples and individuals when it comes to sex may vary according to beliefs, experience, and how daring they are. At the beginning of a relationship, most couples are likely to have normal, everyday sex, which people usually label as vanilla sex. These encounters help them bond with each other physically and emotionally.

But later on, you or your husband might feel that these conventional methods are starting to become a routine and even boring. Somehow, you don’t anticipate having sex anymore. This is not healthy in a relationship. Physical intimacy is an important aspect for a romantic relationship to last. When there are problems with physical intimacy, emotional issues may also arise. This can eventually lead to feelings of isolation and discontentment.

There’s nothing wrong with sticking to vanilla sex though, since it works for most couples. But sometimes, you may feel the need to think of ways to make your private moments together more exciting. Many relationship experts recommend role playing and playing sex games. The use of sexual aids such as anal toys is also one way of spicing things up. Of course, aside from these, constant communication between you and your husband is also important in order to address your desires.

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Unusual Places to Do It with Your Husband

Angie Johnson — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 06:51:21 +0000

Aside from role playing, another way to spice up intimate moments with your husband is to vary the places where the action takes place. The bedroom is not the only place in the house where you can get intimate with him. And, your house is not the only place in the whole world where you and your husband can do it.

Of course, this is not to say that you should start acting like wild animals that have sex just about anywhere they want to. You still have to make sure that intimate moments remain private and that you won’t embarrass yourselves by getting caught by other members of your household or of your community.

Your house is the best place to start. If you have exhausted all the options in the bedroom, try the other rooms in the house. Make sure that the kids are not home, that you lock the doors, and that you shut the curtains. Use your imagination on how furniture such as the couch, the table, or the tub can vary your sexual experience. You can even bring out that sex furniture you just bought when exploring other places in your house as an alternative for the bedroom.

Some couples find it more exciting to do it in secluded areas — a dark alley, an empty parking lot, or even in public restrooms. For them, the thrill lies in the idea of getting caught.

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Tantric Erogenous Zones for Couples

Angie Johnson — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 04:51:34 +0000

Couples who are always interested in spicing up their sex life can benefit from the practice of Tantric lovemaking, which involves the process of running sexual energy through the body’s erogenous zones. Tantric lovemaking involves using every “chakra” or force center in the body instead of just focusing of the genitals as the only seat of sexual expression and release.

If you want to try Tantric sex with your partner, you can start through the stimulation of the tongue and the mouth. French kissing is one popular way to raise sexual energy with the mouth and the tongue. You can further heighten the sensation using your fingers, wiggling inside the mouth and even a short way down the throat. Some of us women find it especially arousing if we lick our partner’s fingers. Stimulation of the breasts by squeezing or pulling the nipples can also increase our sexual energy and open up the lungs. You and your partner can also use waterproof sex toys when increasing sexual energy through the tongue and stimulating the breasts.

Finally, we can take sexual pleasure to new heights by manipulating our pubbococcygeal muscles (or PC), and using these muscles to bear down, similar to the act of bearing down during childbirth. In Tantric sex, this is the single most effective method that you can do to heighten your sexual response.

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How to Spice Up a Marriage

Angie Johnson — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 06:00:36 +0000

If you’ve been married for several years, you know that marriage isn’t always a bed of roses. Although, there are several things you can do to spice things up — in and out of bed. Passion and excitement can make a difference in a marriage. You can be awakened from the lull of the day-to-day, such as the chores and responsibilities that you share with your spouse. If there’s passion and excitement in your marriage, you can somehow relive the time when you and your husband were a lot younger and had less care. Also, being passionate translates to having more fun and spice in the bedroom.

So how do you spice things up? Variation, for one thing, is sure to reignite dormant heat. Deviating from the routine may mean something as simple as picking up a small gift for him. It can also mean an extra special dinner you cooked just for your husband. Or, it can also be that extra accessory you bring to bed. Sex toys have been credited for renewed excitement between several couples, and you should definitely be openminded about using them. Cock rings and strap on sex toys are just some of the “props” that can liven up the sparks between you and your hubby.

Whatever it is you need to take to spice things up a bit, these steps are always worth it. Bringing back the spice in your marriage prevents relationship plateaus that can lead to boredom or, worse, infidelity.

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