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How Important is Sexual Chemistry in a Relationship?

Angie Johnson — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 00:57:47 +0000

Your heart beats faster, your irises gets dilated. His gaze, and his chest, are continually centered upon you. Is this just lust or something else? Sexual chemistry just doesn’t come in when you two hit the sack and blow each other’s minds apart with bedroom antics; it actually oozes from your pores, goes up through your nose, and into your brains. Some say it’s fate while others blame nature for it. While a relationship shouldn’t just be based on how good your partner is in bed, how important is sexual chemistry really?

Sexual chemistry as something very important

Those who hook up with their friends and find the sex great stay on to have meaningful relationships. However, those who had crap sex usually just try hard to forget anything happened. Sexual chemistry is one of the foundations of a relationship. We are biologically inclined to find the best mate that matches us and if the sex just ain’t that happening, then it’s also against nature to stay in a relationship with that person.

However, if you started out with great compatibility and then find it waning, this doesn’t mean that you should jump ship and wait for the next guy who smells better. There are ways to rekindle that fire between the sheets through creativity and sometimes with the help of adult toys.

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Does Sex Ruin Friendships?

Angie Johnson — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 00:44:11 +0000

It may be one drunken night or when you both were feeling the heat more than usual and you find yourself pulling off your clothes, tumbling into bed with your friend, and thinking of naughty sex games. Alarm bells start to sound in your mind, will this ruin our friendship? Well, there’s only two ways to go about it.

Not really.

See, if it was really time to take the friendship to another level, then this would be the perfect scenario for both of you. A lot of relationships start out as great friendships and maybe it was just time to put into action what your hormones and your hearts have been telling you.

Yes, it does.

But what if one of you just feels it was just the alcohol or the pheromones doing the deed last night? Aside from a broken heart (either yours or your friend’s) well, it just wouldn’t be the same again. If both of you can just shrug it off and move on with your lives, well, it’s better.

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What’s the Big Fuss about the Third Date?

Angie Johnson — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 00:40:53 +0000

So you’ve passed the first and the second dates. You’ve had fun and you seriously think that the guy is totally into you, so you look forward for the next time you’ll spend together. But, gasp! It’s the third date! You’ve held on to your panties for the first and the second one, but by the third time, guys, and even some of your galpals think that you shouldn’t even be wearing those, and that your date better be equipped with condoms. Is this an ironclad-rule that you should follow?

Even if society opens up with the liberties that people want to experience, you shouldn’t feel pressured to go to bed with someone just because it’s the third date. You can get to know each other in different ways aside from exploring each other’s bodies. However, if you both feel the time is right, whether it’s the third, the seventh or the ninth date, then by all means, let that attraction lead to something better.

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Why Women Can Have Multiple Orgasms

Angie Johnson — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 15:07:56 +0000

Many people say that there are two reasons women can have multiple orgasms.

The first is a scientific reason. The clitoris is key to women having multiple orgasms. The clitoris is actually very similar to the penis. When aroused, the clitoris gets engorged with blood. When a woman reaches an orgasm, the clitoris becomes hypersensitive, much like the penis. However, unlike the penis, blood does not get trapped in the clitoral shaft. This allows us women to remain sexually aroused even after an orgasm. We do not experience a refractory period when any sexual touch is too much. If we are touched and sexually stimulated correctly, we can quickly climax again and experience another orgasm in no time. There really is no specified number to the orgasms a woman can have during a sexual encounter. Again, the key is focusing on the clitoris. This tip is also especially helpful when using a sex toy such as a vibrator. Since the clitoris is one key for you to reach a climax, stimulating this body part with an adult toy can help pave the way for an orgasm.

The logical reason, on the other hand, is that women are just so damn lucky and blessed. And why not? Who doesn’t want to experience reaching climax several times in one night?

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What If You’re Just Not in the Mood?

Angie Johnson — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 15:06:13 +0000

There are times when making love seems to come naturally. You feel the urge. The ambience is perfect and the timing’s right. But then again, there are also those days when you’d rather just snuggle with a book or spend some time alone. The mood’s not there, and there seems to be nothing you can do about it.

This situation gets hard when your partner happens to be in the mood. One missed encounter or two may not mean a lot, but when this happens too often, it may affect your relationship. So what are you to do?

For one thing, you can set aside time to “make” the mood. Make this time count, regardless of your hormonal “reality.” A bubble bath, candles and wine can overpower your “not being in the mood” and create the perfect ambience for the perfect lovemaking. Using sexual aids such as pleasure beads may also help you get in the mood.

If all else fails and you really can’t, try to make up for it. Be there for your partner and try to give them the sexual satisfaction that he wants — even when you’re not getting some back.

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Sneaking in Some Quality Time with Your Partner

Angie Johnson — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 15:02:01 +0000

The enduring partnership among couples is partly dependent on the quality time they share with each other. With some quality time, partners can reconnect and catch up on each other’s lives. You and your partner may not have the time to engage in elaborate sex games every night, so reconnection — amidst daily routines, chores, work, and family responsibilities — is important for keeping the passion in the relationship alive.

Of course, this is easier said than done. We tend to fill up our lives with so many things. And because of this, getting together with our partners for some quality time can be hard.

Just how can you sneak in some quality time with your partner? Here are a few tips:

1. Do some of your chores together: Shopping for groceries, doing the laundry, and finishing other household tasks can be opportunites for you to share time with your partner. Remember to have the right attitude and share the work load with him.

2. Get with the new technology: Conveniences like webcams, cellphones, and instant messaging can mean extra time with your partner even when you’re away or busy with work.

3. Promise the last 30 minutes to an hour right before going to sleep to your partner: You can use this time not just to have sex but also to talk and cuddle.

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Sex: How Often Is Too Often?

Angie Johnson — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 15:01:19 +0000

According to a 2001 survey by Durex, American couples living together have sex about 146 times per year. At roughly 52 weeks in a year, that statistic translates to having sex for two to three times a week.

Of course, it is not really healthy to compare yourself with others. When it comes to sex, there are no black and white areas. It really is a very subjective topic. No one should be judged on how and when they have sex.

So how would you know if often is too often. Just consider how you feel. If you still feel sore with each sexual interval, you may not be giving your body enough time to rest. You also use muscles when having sex and these may experience some tearing because of it. They need to recover. Likewise, if you feel as if you’re losing excitement when it comes to playing sex games, maybe you’re just having too much of it. Remember, too much of any thing is bad for you.

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PDA: How Much Is Too Much?

Angie Johnson — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 14:56:41 +0000

Public display of affection (PDA) can be such a cute thing. Who wouldn’t want to see a loving couple show how much they love each other, right? But then again, it can be too much for some people. Some instances of PDAs can become too bothersome that you may want to scream “Get a room!” at the couple.

So what is too much PDA? Well, just be mindful of your location and the people around you. Obviously, in a church, a lingering kiss may be too much. However, when you’re in a club with your close friends, this kind of kiss might be perfectly all right. Use the sensibilities of other people as the context for determining what is acceptable PDA and what is not.

When publicly displaying affection, just remember to be aware of your environment. It might be easy to lose ourselves in the moment, but we can surely try not to. After all, there are other more suitable venues for demonstrating our passion to our partners. When in the bedroom, you and your partner can get as wild as you can and even use sex toys to make things more exciting. But when in public, remember to maintain a healthy level of respect for the other people around you.

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How Important Is Foreplay?

Angie Johnson — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:55:38 +0000

Many men have made the mistake of jumping right in, totally forgetting foreplay. The kind of reaction that they get from us women is usually less than enthusiastic. Little to zero foreplay is like stepping on the gas of your car, when you’ve just turned on the engine. It’s just too much too soon.

Just think of foreplay as a way of heating things up. Being women, we often feel that there has to be something more besides the sexual act itself. Oftentimes, we need to be wooed. We need a kiss or two, and a teasing touch first before we get down to business. Creativity in the bedroom can also help heat things up. As a matter of fact, some women respond positively to adult games or the use of sex toys during foreplay.

If you get foreplay right, then you will definitely know that you did. An amazing foreplay can lead to a mind-blowing climax. This is because a thoroughly lubricated woman will find the sexual act more pleasurable. You will react more positively and travel up the road toward orgasm with your partner.

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Discussing Your Fetish with Your Partner

Angie Johnson — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 14:53:29 +0000

Fetishes may be an awkward thing to talk about with your partner. But then, there might come a time when you’d have to. Fetishes are a part of you. While a number of people may not feel the same way about your passions, they are a part of who you are and you need to come out with the truth. If you have a fetish for sex games or for using strap on sex toys, you can’t just forever avoid talking about it with your partner. Who knows? Perhaps your partner might even share it, so you’d end up having a very willing playmate.

When talking to your partner about your fetish, remember to expect a few awkward moments. You may even feel rejection at some point. This can be expected as not everyone is open to fetishes. Whatever you do, you need to be comfortable with what you are coming out with. Ideally, your partner will feel this comfort and ease, and he or she will eventually come to accept it. Your fetishes can, after all, be a lot of fun when they are realized between two consenting adults.

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