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Should You be Bothered if Your Partner likes Watching Porn?

Angie Johnson — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 00:53:23 +0000

You’re probably hearing that Avenue Q song about the Internet and porn in your head right now. Thanks to the Internet, your partner seems to be on the computer forever, watching porn and looking at pictures of barely-clad women. Should you be bothered by this?

No.

Especially if you also watch porn, though not as enthusiastic as guys seem to be. Sometimes, you have to look at it this way: asking a guy to stop looking at porn sounds like asking you to stop watching those romance movies or TV drama shows. Porn is one form of visual entertainment like sports and action movies that guys enjoy. Just like how you know that the leading men in your favorite TV dramas are just actors, guys (most of them anyway) know that what they see on porn with all those ladies playing around with anal toys is just for show.

Yes.

If it seems to be replacing the act and enjoyment that you both should be feeling, then it may be time to slow down on the porn marathon. If your sex life is slowly becoming dependent on what’s on the porn channel, then it’s just right to talk and lay down some ground rules.

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Are You Still Faking That Orgasm?

Angie Johnson — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 06:53:29 +0000

A huge factor of the pleasure derived from sex is the intensity of the orgasm. However, due to several reasons, there are still a lot of us women who do not always experience an orgasm when we have sex. This is not alarming if these cases are few and far between. However, if the lack of sexual orgasm happens often, it could result in some problems in the emotional and sexual aspect of the relationship.

The problem of not reaching climax during sex gets even complicated because there is a significant portion of us women who tend to fake our orgasms. The main reason for doing this is to please our partners. At first, it might appear that it is good for the relationship, since your boyfriend or husband feels that everything’s all right in the sexual intimacy department. But later on, you might get frustrated if you have to fake it every time you have sex.

If you do fake having an orgasm, you must help your partner determine the factors that will let you become satisfied in bed. You have to remember that sex is not just a physical act. It is also an emotional bond wherein you and your partner need open communication through words and body language. If you think using adult props such as pussy pumps or oral sex toys can help you reach the climax during lovemaking, then by all means suggest it to your partner.

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When Vanilla Isn’t Enough Anymore

Angie Johnson — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 06:52:22 +0000

Preferences of couples and individuals when it comes to sex may vary according to beliefs, experience, and how daring they are. At the beginning of a relationship, most couples are likely to have normal, everyday sex, which people usually label as vanilla sex. These encounters help them bond with each other physically and emotionally.

But later on, you or your husband might feel that these conventional methods are starting to become a routine and even boring. Somehow, you don’t anticipate having sex anymore. This is not healthy in a relationship. Physical intimacy is an important aspect for a romantic relationship to last. When there are problems with physical intimacy, emotional issues may also arise. This can eventually lead to feelings of isolation and discontentment.

There’s nothing wrong with sticking to vanilla sex though, since it works for most couples. But sometimes, you may feel the need to think of ways to make your private moments together more exciting. Many relationship experts recommend role playing and playing sex games. The use of sexual aids such as anal toys is also one way of spicing things up. Of course, aside from these, constant communication between you and your husband is also important in order to address your desires.

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Unusual Places to Do It with Your Husband

Angie Johnson — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 06:51:21 +0000

Aside from role playing, another way to spice up intimate moments with your husband is to vary the places where the action takes place. The bedroom is not the only place in the house where you can get intimate with him. And, your house is not the only place in the whole world where you and your husband can do it.

Of course, this is not to say that you should start acting like wild animals that have sex just about anywhere they want to. You still have to make sure that intimate moments remain private and that you won’t embarrass yourselves by getting caught by other members of your household or of your community.

Your house is the best place to start. If you have exhausted all the options in the bedroom, try the other rooms in the house. Make sure that the kids are not home, that you lock the doors, and that you shut the curtains. Use your imagination on how furniture such as the couch, the table, or the tub can vary your sexual experience. You can even bring out that sex furniture you just bought when exploring other places in your house as an alternative for the bedroom.

Some couples find it more exciting to do it in secluded areas — a dark alley, an empty parking lot, or even in public restrooms. For them, the thrill lies in the idea of getting caught.

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Sex Games with Your Husband

Angie Johnson — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 05:59:04 +0000

When you have been married for quite some time, it is understandable that either you or your husband will start looking for things that can spice up your sex life. One of the ways to do this is to start playing bedroom games. These “naughty” activities will enhance your physical intimacy, resulting in a more satisfying sexual experience.

When choosing an adult game to play, you have to consider each of your characteristics and preferences. Are you naturally playful? Does your husband happen to be a bit uptight? Do you or your husband have conventional beliefs? The answers to these questions can influence the type of sex game you choose and how this sex game can be played out in the bedroom.

If this will be your first time to try a sex game with your husband, you might want to open up the topic first with him before you try anything. You don’t want to prepare something that your husband might not approve of. On the other hand, if your husband is an adventurous person, then go ahead and surprise him in the bedroom.

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All about Role Playing in Bed

Angie Johnson — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 05:58:00 +0000

Role playing in bed is, perhaps, one of the most common if not THE most common sex game played by couples. Role playing involves your creativity and resourcefulness. The sexual experience is intensified if the mind is also being tickled during the encounter.

And there is no better way to amuse the mind than to play along with one’s dreams and fantasies. Both men and women daydream several moments each day. These fantasies may be sexual in nature or may just be simple visualizations of things or situations other than where the person is in. These fantasies can be so powerful that, if used correctly, they can enhance your bedroom encounters, which are starting to become boring and predictable.

Before you start role playing, you and your partner should talk about it first. That way, it will be easier to choose the scenarios that you can explore or the characters that you can pretend to be. Later on, you or your partner may surprise one another by using random characters or impromptu situations for role playing.

Another tip is that before or during role playing, you can also add more excitement by using sexual aids such as penis pumps. There are also a variety of lesbian sex toys or gay sex toys that can make role-playing in bed more pleasurable.

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Living Out the Top 3 Female Fantasies

Angie Johnson — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 04:56:55 +0000

Fantasies make for some of life’s most playful scenarios. These add a certain level of “discomfort” to conventional sex — the good kind of discomfort, that is. You get to shed your skin and live in a new one temporarily with your partner.

There are common fantasies that women like us might want to try out with our partners:

1. The sexy French maid and the master of the house: You gotta hand it to the French for coming up with comedic but naughty scenarios involving a maid and her master. Of course, to live out this fantasy, you should rent one of those revealing French maid costumes. (Don’t forget the feather duster too!) Act out situations that allow you to tease your partner, such as bending over to pick up stuff from the floor and showing your cute booty to him. Before you know it, both of you would be shouting “Oui! Oui! Oui!” in bed.

2. The sex slave scenario: Won’t it be fun to have a sex slave who will do your every bidding? Well, in this fantasy, you get to try it out. You can even try to include some light spanking and bondage. Just remember to be clear with your partner beforehand on how far you are willing to go and your limitations.

3. The voyeur scene: Have you ever imagined that someone’s watching you while you’re naked? The thought does sound rather kinky, doesn’t it? In this scenario, you have your partner pretend that he’s watching you secretly during your most intimate moments. You can even turn it up a notch if you let your partner watch you touch yourself or use a sex toy.

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Feeling Guilty about Your Dreams and Fantasies

Angie Johnson — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 05:48:43 +0000

Sexual fantasies and dreams are natural and harmless in themselves, but some of us women may feel guilty when the sexual fantasy starts to involve an inappropriate person, like an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend, a neighbor, or a co-worker. Those of us who are married and who start to have fantasies with people other than our spouses feel even guiltier. Women who have sexual fantasies, however, should NOT feel guilty about having them, since dreams cannot be controlled after all. In fact, dreams and fantasies are actually our mind’s way of telling us that we may have a problem that needs to be dealt with.

Inappropriate sexual fantasies may be the result of unresolved sexual desires or tension in your relationship. You may be feeling unsatisfied with the way things are going (in and out of bed) with your romantic and sexual partner. Fortunately, this is a problem that can be fixed by good old conversation. More often than not, there should be a resolve to spice things up a bit once in a while. So, a rekindling of the sexual fire is sometimes the best solution.

Sometimes, one of the best way of handling these dreams and fantasies is to just ignore them temporarily. You definitely cannot choose your dreams. Regarding fantasies, experts state that there’s nothing wrong with having them. Just as long as these fantasies do not interfere with the way you work and deal with people, then having them is perfectly all right. So, whether you’re fantasizing about using anal toys or a vibrator, then you have nothing to worry about.

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