Advice for Women – Female Sexuality, Insights & Tips!

Gone are the days when sex is viewed solely to make babies. People have become more liberal about their views on sex and the pleasure they derive from doing it. So, it comes as a surprise that there are still women who, whether during sex or during masturbation, have not had an orgasm. And, believe it or not, some of these women are in their 40s.

Fact is, some of us women have the wrong notion of what an orgasm feels like. There may also be emotional barriers that prevent us from experiencing an orgasm. These barriers can range from feelings of insecurities in bed, thinking that sex is a dirty deed, and not just being relaxed during sex.

First, sex is a two-way street — you and your partner should feel good doing it. In short, both of you should have an orgasm. If you haven’t experienced an orgasm after sex, ask yourself what made sex somehow unpleasurable. Does your partner stop after he or she climaxes and leaves you hanging? Are you way too preoccupied pleasuring him and forgetting your own sexual needs? Perhaps, talking this over with your partner can solve this predicament. You can also suggest to your partner if you can incorporate sexual aids such as anal toys into your lovemaking. Who knows, these toys might help pave the way to an incredible orgasm for both you and your companion.

Second, sex with your partner is never a dirty deed. Just as long as you and your partner agree on what works for you both in bed, then sex can be exciting.

Third, just relax and go with the flow. When you’re relaxed, you enjoy sex more and you definitely will have an orgasm. To stay relaxed in bed means that you have to be in tune with your body’s sexual urges. Sometimes, women masturbate to find out what’s pleasurable and what’s not. And, just like sex, masturbation is not a dirty act.

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Some of us women may find that our sexual drive starts to wane as we hit our 40s or 50s. There is nothing to be worried about because this is normal for women and, even in some cases, for men. Men, however, tend to hit this phase much later in life. Nevertheless, there is something that you can do if ever you do find your sexual drive waning. Here are a few tips to help you get your groove back.

First, determine the cause of the decline. In most us, the natural course of aging, menopause, and depression are common culprits. Some of us may lose our libido as a side effect of medication. Whatever the problem is, address it. Menopause and depression can be cured by medication. If medication is the source, then ask your physician to prescribe an alternative that does not have this side effect. If the problem has something to do with your spouse, talk it over with him. Go to couples counseling if necessary.

Try to rekindle the love by engaging in fun activities with your spouse. It does not have to involve sexual intimacy right away. Start by holding hands and go on from there. Try spending night-outs with him, drinking wine and setting the mood before sex.

In bed, there are many adult toys and adult props you can use to increase your libido. These can range from lubricants you can buy at the drug store to sex swings that can put you more in the mood.

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