Advice for Women – Female Sexuality, Insights & Tips!

A huge factor of the pleasure derived from sex is the intensity of the orgasm. However, due to several reasons, there are still a lot of us women who do not always experience an orgasm when we have sex. This is not alarming if these cases are few and far between. However, if the lack of sexual orgasm happens often, it could result in some problems in the emotional and sexual aspect of the relationship.

The problem of not reaching climax during sex gets even complicated because there is a significant portion of us women who tend to fake our orgasms. The main reason for doing this is to please our partners. At first, it might appear that it is good for the relationship, since your boyfriend or husband feels that everything’s all right in the sexual intimacy department. But later on, you might get frustrated if you have to fake it every time you have sex.

If you do fake having an orgasm, you must help your partner determine the factors that will let you become satisfied in bed. You have to remember that sex is not just a physical act. It is also an emotional bond wherein you and your partner need open communication through words and body language. If you think using adult props such as pussy pumps or oral sex toys can help you reach the climax during lovemaking, then by all means suggest it to your partner.

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Preferences of couples and individuals when it comes to sex may vary according to beliefs, experience, and how daring they are. At the beginning of a relationship, most couples are likely to have normal, everyday sex, which people usually label as vanilla sex. These encounters help them bond with each other physically and emotionally.

But later on, you or your husband might feel that these conventional methods are starting to become a routine and even boring. Somehow, you don’t anticipate having sex anymore. This is not healthy in a relationship. Physical intimacy is an important aspect for a romantic relationship to last. When there are problems with physical intimacy, emotional issues may also arise. This can eventually lead to feelings of isolation and discontentment.

There’s nothing wrong with sticking to vanilla sex though, since it works for most couples. But sometimes, you may feel the need to think of ways to make your private moments together more exciting. Many relationship experts recommend role playing and playing sex games. The use of sexual aids such as anal toys is also one way of spicing things up. Of course, aside from these, constant communication between you and your husband is also important in order to address your desires.

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Aside from role playing, another way to spice up intimate moments with your husband is to vary the places where the action takes place. The bedroom is not the only place in the house where you can get intimate with him. And, your house is not the only place in the whole world where you and your husband can do it.

Of course, this is not to say that you should start acting like wild animals that have sex just about anywhere they want to. You still have to make sure that intimate moments remain private and that you won’t embarrass yourselves by getting caught by other members of your household or of your community.

Your house is the best place to start. If you have exhausted all the options in the bedroom, try the other rooms in the house. Make sure that the kids are not home, that you lock the doors, and that you shut the curtains. Use your imagination on how furniture such as the couch, the table, or the tub can vary your sexual experience. You can even bring out that sex furniture you just bought when exploring other places in your house as an alternative for the bedroom.

Some couples find it more exciting to do it in secluded areas — a dark alley, an empty parking lot, or even in public restrooms. For them, the thrill lies in the idea of getting caught.

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There are topics that we have labeled as girl talk — things ranging from clothes and make up to the latest place to hang out and be seen. Also, there are discussions that are exclusive to us women, particularly those that involve our intimate encounters. Men are not allowed to come near us when we are having this special kind of bonding with our girl friends.

If you are in an intimate relationship, should you really tell all the juicy stuff to your girl friends? Okay, probably you just need to talk about a sensitive issue with your friends and ask for their advice. Or, there are times that you just want to share how wonderful your boyfriend or husband is, especially in the bedroom.

However, you really have to be careful as to how much information you share with your girl friends. Once you shared information, it is hard to control it from spreading. True, you may have trustworthy friends. But there is always that risk of someone unintentionally slipping portions of that private talk in another conversation. So, if you kiss and tell, make sure that you don’t spill every detail. Also, think about how your man would feel if he finds out you’ve been sharing intimate details, such as his penchant for using penis pumps or exotic condoms.

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When you have been married for quite some time, it is understandable that either you or your husband will start looking for things that can spice up your sex life. One of the ways to do this is to start playing bedroom games. These “naughty” activities will enhance your physical intimacy, resulting in a more satisfying sexual experience.

When choosing an adult game to play, you have to consider each of your characteristics and preferences. Are you naturally playful? Does your husband happen to be a bit uptight? Do you or your husband have conventional beliefs? The answers to these questions can influence the type of sex game you choose and how this sex game can be played out in the bedroom.

If this will be your first time to try a sex game with your husband, you might want to open up the topic first with him before you try anything. You don’t want to prepare something that your husband might not approve of. On the other hand, if your husband is an adventurous person, then go ahead and surprise him in the bedroom.

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Role playing in bed is, perhaps, one of the most common if not THE most common sex game played by couples. Role playing involves your creativity and resourcefulness. The sexual experience is intensified if the mind is also being tickled during the encounter.

And there is no better way to amuse the mind than to play along with one’s dreams and fantasies. Both men and women daydream several moments each day. These fantasies may be sexual in nature or may just be simple visualizations of things or situations other than where the person is in. These fantasies can be so powerful that, if used correctly, they can enhance your bedroom encounters, which are starting to become boring and predictable.

Before you start role playing, you and your partner should talk about it first. That way, it will be easier to choose the scenarios that you can explore or the characters that you can pretend to be. Later on, you or your partner may surprise one another by using random characters or impromptu situations for role playing.

Another tip is that before or during role playing, you can also add more excitement by using sexual aids such as penis pumps. There are also a variety of lesbian sex toys or gay sex toys that can make role-playing in bed more pleasurable.

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Gone are the days when sex is viewed solely to make babies. People have become more liberal about their views on sex and the pleasure they derive from doing it. So, it comes as a surprise that there are still women who, whether during sex or during masturbation, have not had an orgasm. And, believe it or not, some of these women are in their 40s.

Fact is, some of us women have the wrong notion of what an orgasm feels like. There may also be emotional barriers that prevent us from experiencing an orgasm. These barriers can range from feelings of insecurities in bed, thinking that sex is a dirty deed, and not just being relaxed during sex.

First, sex is a two-way street — you and your partner should feel good doing it. In short, both of you should have an orgasm. If you haven’t experienced an orgasm after sex, ask yourself what made sex somehow unpleasurable. Does your partner stop after he or she climaxes and leaves you hanging? Are you way too preoccupied pleasuring him and forgetting your own sexual needs? Perhaps, talking this over with your partner can solve this predicament. You can also suggest to your partner if you can incorporate sexual aids such as anal toys into your lovemaking. Who knows, these toys might help pave the way to an incredible orgasm for both you and your companion.

Second, sex with your partner is never a dirty deed. Just as long as you and your partner agree on what works for you both in bed, then sex can be exciting.

Third, just relax and go with the flow. When you’re relaxed, you enjoy sex more and you definitely will have an orgasm. To stay relaxed in bed means that you have to be in tune with your body’s sexual urges. Sometimes, women masturbate to find out what’s pleasurable and what’s not. And, just like sex, masturbation is not a dirty act.

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Fantasies make for some of life’s most playful scenarios. These add a certain level of “discomfort” to conventional sex — the good kind of discomfort, that is. You get to shed your skin and live in a new one temporarily with your partner.

There are common fantasies that women like us might want to try out with our partners:

1. The sexy French maid and the master of the house: You gotta hand it to the French for coming up with comedic but naughty scenarios involving a maid and her master. Of course, to live out this fantasy, you should rent one of those revealing French maid costumes. (Don’t forget the feather duster too!) Act out situations that allow you to tease your partner, such as bending over to pick up stuff from the floor and showing your cute booty to him. Before you know it, both of you would be shouting “Oui! Oui! Oui!” in bed.

2. The sex slave scenario: Won’t it be fun to have a sex slave who will do your every bidding? Well, in this fantasy, you get to try it out. You can even try to include some light spanking and bondage. Just remember to be clear with your partner beforehand on how far you are willing to go and your limitations.

3. The voyeur scene: Have you ever imagined that someone’s watching you while you’re naked? The thought does sound rather kinky, doesn’t it? In this scenario, you have your partner pretend that he’s watching you secretly during your most intimate moments. You can even turn it up a notch if you let your partner watch you touch yourself or use a sex toy.

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Couples who are always interested in spicing up their sex life can benefit from the practice of Tantric lovemaking, which involves the process of running sexual energy through the body’s erogenous zones. Tantric lovemaking involves using every “chakra” or force center in the body instead of just focusing of the genitals as the only seat of sexual expression and release.

If you want to try Tantric sex with your partner, you can start through the stimulation of the tongue and the mouth. French kissing is one popular way to raise sexual energy with the mouth and the tongue. You can further heighten the sensation using your fingers, wiggling inside the mouth and even a short way down the throat. Some of us women find it especially arousing if we lick our partner’s fingers. Stimulation of the breasts by squeezing or pulling the nipples can also increase our sexual energy and open up the lungs. You and your partner can also use waterproof sex toys when increasing sexual energy through the tongue and stimulating the breasts.

Finally, we can take sexual pleasure to new heights by manipulating our pubbococcygeal muscles (or PC), and using these muscles to bear down, similar to the act of bearing down during childbirth. In Tantric sex, this is the single most effective method that you can do to heighten your sexual response.

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Masturbation is widely believed to be a sin, but a crime it is not. Studies have shown that masturbatory-like acts can be observed in children as young as 2 years old, indicating that this is something humans are inclined to do and most of us tend to like doing even into adulthood.

The mainstream view is that there is nothing wrong with masturbation or the thoughts that go with it — fantasizing about sexual scenarios while you touch yourself. Masturbation is a natural way for sexual release, and sex experts even advocate mutual masturbation as one way for couples to get sexually intimate safely (i.e., without the risk of getting pregnant or getting some types of STDs). Another reason why most experts tend to favor this form of sexual gratification is because it is one way for those without partners to release sexual tension. It is also a way to discover yourself and your sexual needs so that you can communicate this better to your partner. As a matter of fact, mutual masturbation with the use of sex toys such as love dolls and dildos is a healthy way to enhance relationships.

The bottomline — masturbation is safe and is not an indicator of any problem unless it is linked to an existing obsessive-compulsive disorder.

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