Advice for Women – Female Sexuality, Insights & Tips!

A lot of girls often find themselves obsessing about what to wear and how to look on a date as they want to make the perfect impressions.  Aside from dressing appropriately based on how and where you two are going, there are other things that you should consider when picking out an outfit.  The question of how much skin to show is one that you should think over before going out.  After all, you are going out on a date, and not on a sex game marathon.

Be sexy, not skanky

Guys are all for the feminine form.  However, it there’s little left to the imagination, then they might think other things about you (unless that’s your objective).  Don’t try too hard when playing up your assets like showing too much cleavage or wearing the shortest skirt possible.  Give him glimpses to keep his attention instead of baring it all with the full show.

Be interesting

Choose colors and designs that flatter your assets instead of wearing drab pieces.  If you prefer going monochromatic with your clothes, break the boredom with a funky piece of accessory that you can even talk about.

Be comfortable

Being sexy doesn’t mean trying really hard to endure three hours in 5-inch stilettos.  While it’s true that beauty knoweth no pain, you can come across as more alluring if you’re in your most comfortable element.  Find clothes and shoes that exude sexiness without having to induce any torture on you.

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If you’re one of those How I Met Your Mother fanatics, I’m sure you melted in the “Ten Sessions” episode where Ted impressed his doctor Stella (and us) with a two-minute complete date to fit with her busy schedule. Though it may be hard to do the same in real life, there are other ways to get creative when it comes to dates. Though guys mostly work hard to make the first impression, the ladies can also lend a hand to make a date memorable. Here are just a few unusual places where you can spend your date in.

A cemetery

If you and your guy are goth-types, a cemetery may just be the place where you can have that ideal date. Here, you can get to talk more and not be disturbed by anyone else. Bring a spread and have a simple picnic. If you’re both hobbyists, bring out the parchment paper and the pencils to take some grave rubbings.

A large open cornfield

Plunk down on a sofa, a TV, and a scary movie in the middle of the cornfield and you both will have the most memorable life-like screamfest ever, especially if you see weird shadows around you.

A hobby store

If you both like doing a hobby or are into those DIY things, you can go into a hobby store and pick out one kit that you can build together. Build this item over a period of time, sharing tips and tricks and getting to know each other better. At the end of the project, you’ll definitely have something else to share with him aside from the love of the craft.

By coming up with a unique idea for a date place, you’ll make the day more memorable for the both of you. Instead of just a regular movie date and ending up in bed with all those cheap sex toys, an unusual date at the cemetery, cornfield, or hobby store can help keep things more full of surprises.

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So you’ve passed the first and the second dates.  You’ve had fun and you seriously think that the guy is totally into you, so you look forward for the next time you’ll spend together.  But, gasp!  It’s the third date!  You’ve held on to your panties for the first and the second one, but by the third time, guys, and even some of your galpals think that you shouldn’t even be wearing those, and that your date better be equipped with condoms.  Is this an ironclad-rule that you should follow?

Even if society opens up with the liberties that people want to experience, you shouldn’t feel pressured to go to bed with someone just because it’s the third date.  You can get to know each other in different ways aside from exploring each other’s bodies.  However, if you both feel the time is right, whether it’s the third, the seventh or the ninth date, then by all means, let that attraction lead to something better.

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Make a night out with your friends a memorable one by enjoying yourself and snagging a cute guy or two at the bar. However, if your flirting skills are a little bit rusty or haven’t been put to good use, then touch up with these three simple reminders

The bait

No matter how powdered, polished, perfumed and palatable you are, if you’re not the kind of bait that is approachable, well, no guy would chat you up. Relax and try to have fun first. Once you’ve put yourself at ease, you’ll look more open and receiving. Guys dig girls who are fun and carefree and if you are genuinely having fun, it’s easier to approach you. Avoid crossing your arms, rolling your eyes, and sporting a pout.

The catch

Okay, so you caught someone’s eye, and he’s coming closer! Instead of hyperventilating, let him see how interested you are in his approach. Maintain that coy smile and slip a line or two as a greeting. If you find something interesting or nice about him, don’t hesitate to compliment him. Laugh at his jokes but don’t act like a total ditz. Playful intelligent banter can also be a turn on for some guys.

Reel him in

Seal the deal by getting a bit closer. Drop your voice so he has to lean closer to hear you. Touch his arm or his hand. If you feel you could trust him, take the conversation to the next level by asking if you two could take a walk or if you two could sit down in a cozy or more private area. Who knows? The night might get hotter with you two ending up in bed and playing with sex toys.

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Many people say that there are two reasons women can have multiple orgasms.

The first is a scientific reason. The clitoris is key to women having multiple orgasms. The clitoris is actually very similar to the penis. When aroused, the clitoris gets engorged with blood. When a woman reaches an orgasm, the clitoris becomes hypersensitive, much like the penis. However, unlike the penis, blood does not get trapped in the clitoral shaft. This allows us women to remain sexually aroused even after an orgasm. We do not experience a refractory period when any sexual touch is too much. If we are touched and sexually stimulated correctly, we can quickly climax again and experience another orgasm in no time. There really is no specified number to the orgasms a woman can have during a sexual encounter. Again, the key is focusing on the clitoris. This tip is also especially helpful when using a sex toy such as a vibrator. Since the clitoris is one key for you to reach a climax, stimulating this body part with an adult toy can help pave the way for an orgasm.

The logical reason, on the other hand, is that women are just so damn lucky and blessed. And why not? Who doesn’t want to experience reaching climax several times in one night?

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There are times when making love seems to come naturally. You feel the urge. The ambience is perfect and the timing’s right. But then again, there are also those days when you’d rather just snuggle with a book or spend some time alone. The mood’s not there, and there seems to be nothing you can do about it.

This situation gets hard when your partner happens to be in the mood. One missed encounter or two may not mean a lot, but when this happens too often, it may affect your relationship. So what are you to do?

For one thing, you can set aside time to “make” the mood. Make this time count, regardless of your hormonal “reality.” A bubble bath, candles and wine can overpower your “not being in the mood” and create the perfect ambience for the perfect lovemaking. Using sexual aids such as pleasure beads may also help you get in the mood.

If all else fails and you really can’t, try to make up for it. Be there for your partner and try to give them the sexual satisfaction that he wants — even when you’re not getting some back.

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According to a 2001 survey by Durex, American couples living together have sex about 146 times per year. At roughly 52 weeks in a year, that statistic translates to having sex for two to three times a week.

Of course, it is not really healthy to compare yourself with others. When it comes to sex, there are no black and white areas. It really is a very subjective topic. No one should be judged on how and when they have sex.

So how would you know if often is too often. Just consider how you feel. If you still feel sore with each sexual interval, you may not be giving your body enough time to rest. You also use muscles when having sex and these may experience some tearing because of it. They need to recover. Likewise, if you feel as if you’re losing excitement when it comes to playing sex games, maybe you’re just having too much of it. Remember, too much of any thing is bad for you.

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Public display of affection (PDA) can be such a cute thing. Who wouldn’t want to see a loving couple show how much they love each other, right? But then again, it can be too much for some people. Some instances of PDAs can become too bothersome that you may want to scream “Get a room!” at the couple.

So what is too much PDA? Well, just be mindful of your location and the people around you. Obviously, in a church, a lingering kiss may be too much. However, when you’re in a club with your close friends, this kind of kiss might be perfectly all right. Use the sensibilities of other people as the context for determining what is acceptable PDA and what is not.

When publicly displaying affection, just remember to be aware of your environment. It might be easy to lose ourselves in the moment, but we can surely try not to. After all, there are other more suitable venues for demonstrating our passion to our partners. When in the bedroom, you and your partner can get as wild as you can and even use sex toys to make things more exciting. But when in public, remember to maintain a healthy level of respect for the other people around you.

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Many men have made the mistake of jumping right in, totally forgetting foreplay. The kind of reaction that they get from us women is usually less than enthusiastic. Little to zero foreplay is like stepping on the gas of your car, when you’ve just turned on the engine. It’s just too much too soon.

Just think of foreplay as a way of heating things up. Being women, we often feel that there has to be something more besides the sexual act itself. Oftentimes, we need to be wooed. We need a kiss or two, and a teasing touch first before we get down to business. Creativity in the bedroom can also help heat things up. As a matter of fact, some women respond positively to adult games or the use of sex toys during foreplay.

If you get foreplay right, then you will definitely know that you did. An amazing foreplay can lead to a mind-blowing climax. This is because a thoroughly lubricated woman will find the sexual act more pleasurable. You will react more positively and travel up the road toward orgasm with your partner.

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Fetishes may be an awkward thing to talk about with your partner. But then, there might come a time when you’d have to. Fetishes are a part of you. While a number of people may not feel the same way about your passions, they are a part of who you are and you need to come out with the truth. If you have a fetish for sex games or for using strap on sex toys, you can’t just forever avoid talking about it with your partner. Who knows? Perhaps your partner might even share it, so you’d end up having a very willing playmate.

When talking to your partner about your fetish, remember to expect a few awkward moments. You may even feel rejection at some point. This can be expected as not everyone is open to fetishes. Whatever you do, you need to be comfortable with what you are coming out with. Ideally, your partner will feel this comfort and ease, and he or she will eventually come to accept it. Your fetishes can, after all, be a lot of fun when they are realized between two consenting adults.

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