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Planning a Girls’ Night Out

Angie Johnson — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 06:40:32 +0000

You don’t need a guy to have fun. Just invite your best girlfriends for a night out, or in whatever your fancy is. The secret to this is that all the girls should be willing to enjoy the night. To make the girls’ night out work, here are some of the things you should consider.

Make a list of invitees.

Think of all the girlfriends you know who would really need a girls’ night out. Do not discount those who have kids. Maybe they also want to have a break. Create cute RSVP invites for all the girls. The replies’ deadline should be at least a week before the special night itself. Ask your best pal to help you out with the arrangements.

Pick a destination.

Think of all the girls you have invited. What are their common interests and needs? Once you have zeroed in on that, you can decide on what sort of girls’ night out you will all have. It could be drinks at a bar or a slumber party at your place. It could also be a night out at the spa for deep massage and manicures.

Prepare a backup plan.

Plans can sometimes not work out. There could be a storm on your scheduled night out. Have a backup plan or destination.

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How to Handle an Overly Jealous Boyfriend

Angie Johnson — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 01:41:33 +0000

An overly jealous boyfriend is only funny in movies. Girlfriends who have to deal with guys like this have to endure manipulative and over-possessive behavior. This can be suffocating and irritating. It can also be ultimately insulting. Because of this, the relationship can be strained. A relationship that is no longer fun and trusting can be very difficult to maintain.

Talk to your boyfriend

Have a heart-to-heart talk with your boyfriend. Tell him that his jealousy is making you feel not just uncomfortable but downright unhappy. Ask him about his side, as well. Maybe you are unknowingly doing some things that can make a man jealous.

Reassure your boyfriend

If you want to save your relationship, reassure your boyfriend about your commitment. Make him feel secure about his place in your heart. If he continues being irrationally jealous, maybe it is time to let go. You may both just end up very unhappy. If you want to hold on, you can try couples’ counseling.

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What to Do when Your Man Asks for Space

Angie Johnson — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 01:38:27 +0000

You should not panic when your man asks for space. Do not even appear overly distraught. Instead, accept his need for space. Some men may actually mean “space” as a prelude to a breakup. However, others just want a little break. If the latter is the case, you may drive him into a real breakup mode if you become hysterical or clingy. Just give him the break he needs and wait it out. You may even tell him that you also need some time alone. Now, that will make him think. Be mature with your reaction. A calm reaction may make him think about your finer points and make him want to forget about the “space” time. If he does proceed with it, live your life as you would as an independent woman. There are other aspects of yourself that is separate from him. Make sure that you develop some of your other strengths and pursue your other interests. This way, even if he does decide to make a clean break, you are strong enough to rise above it.

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The MUSTs in Building an Honest Relationship

Angie Johnson — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 01:36:00 +0000

If you want a great relationship, you and your partner must practice open communication. This means that your relationship is cemented by honesty coming from both sides. It is a relationship with no secrets and lies. Just imagine if you catch your partner lying. Will you still be happy about being with him? You will end up suspecting everything he does, whether he’s innocent or not.

Share thoughts and ideas

Your relationship should not be purely physical. If it’s real love, you will enjoy hearing about each other’s day. Share your ideas about things that may interest both of you. Be open about your past life without sounding wistful. Just show him how much you want him to be part of your life.

Avoid even the smallest lies

There is the little white lie and there is that harmless lie that may just cause trouble. The white lie makes you avoid hurting your partner. The other supposedly harmless lie is something that may be attached to something big. For example, if you lie about where you were and you got discovered, he may interpret it differently. You may just be there for a more innocent reason.

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Spending More Time with Your Man without Begging for It

Angie Johnson — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 01:29:58 +0000

It’s difficult to demand time with your partner without sounding desperate or annoying. If he is your boyfriend, you will sound as if you are the one asking him for a date. If he is your husband, you will sound like a nagging wife. Either way, you should first find out where he spends most of the time and why. It could be that work is keeping him from spending more time with you or it could be that friends are who he prefers to keep company with.

Make bonding moments more pleasurable

You don’t have to make him skip work or to fight with his friends. This does not mean, however, that you are quitting the fight. Just treat him well when he is with you. Give him a back rub after a stressful week at work. This way, he will crave your company rather than his friends’.

Arrange your schedule

Maybe not being able to spend time together is due to your conflicting schedules. Talk about an arrangement that will make sure you will have time together every week. Even if you are very busy with your careers and other social responsibilities, you should value spending time together. This will help make your relationship stay strong.

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How to Beat the Green-eyed Monster in You

Angie Johnson — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 01:26:32 +0000

Jealousy can destroy a relationship just as much as real infidelity can. The extreme end of it, which you may call the green-eyed monster, is sometimes a sign of something much more serious. It may be a sign of possessiveness, insecurity, and past relationship problems. If you are constantly jealous of your partner, you should find ways to manage your emotions before your worst fears come true.

Managing yourself

Get to the root of your jealousy problem. Ask yourself if there is a reason for your jealousy. Maybe your partner is really showing signs and you are just being logical. Present the situation to a trusted, unbiased friend and get her opinion. Think of your personal reasons for being jealous. Maybe you are punishing your present partner for your ex’s fault.

Seeking help

If your problem is deeply-rooted, you should consult a counselor. Maybe past relationships have severely wounded you, causing you to ruin your present relationship without meaning to. Another reason for consulting a counselor is if your jealousy is rooted from insecurity and extreme fear of being abandoned.

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Planning the Perfect Getaway with Your Partner

Angie Johnson — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 01:22:12 +0000

A getaway is great for bonding with your partner. It can also be a source of relaxation for the both of you, especially in this fast-paced world. A relaxing yet romantic vacation can do wonders for your relationship. You should plan the details together. This way, the trip fits both of your schedules and tastes.

The perfect location

What sort of guy is he? The answer to this question will guide you as to where you should go. If he is the sporty sort, he might go for sunny locations with plenty of outdoor fun or even snowy slopes. If you are both up for adventure and a taste of culture, you can find a place that will be hopping with special celebrations on your visit.

The right budget

As much as splurging can create an unforgettable vacation, resist the temptation. Go for great deals. You do not want to be fighting long after the getaway is over. A perfect getaway can be arranged on a budget. What is important is the splash of personality and activity that will define it.

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Five Masturbation Secrets Men Do not Want Women to Know

Angie Johnson — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 08:26:47 +0000

If you think that your boyfriend or husband has stopped masturbating because you already have a very active and very satisfying sex life, then you couldn’t be more wrong. Are you interested to discover the facts about male masturbation since you feel uncomfortable asking about them from your partner? Well, read on and find out what he’s been keeping from you.

1. Most men masturbate. Yes, even men who are in healthy, monogamous relationships masturbate. It doesn’t mean though that he’s not satisfied with you in bed. For all you know, he could be thinking about the hot times he’s been having with you every time he masturbates.

2. Men have different masturbatory techniques. Some men prefer short and jerky hand movements. Others prefer long and steady strokes.

3. There’s more to masturbation than stroking the shaft. Believe it or not, some men find it more pleasurable to insert their fingers in their ass when they masturbate. When they do indulge in finger play, they are aiming for their prostate, which, when properly stimulated, can lead to more satisfying orgasms. This is the reason for the increasing popularity of sex toys for men such as dildos.

4. Some men also prefer to use lubricants when masturbating. Using a lubricant adds to the sensation during masturbation. Using lubricants allows their hands to glide freely as they stroke their penises.

5. Men can have the urge to masturbate at any time and at any place. They do it in restrooms, their office cubicles, and other places where they can be alone or can’t be seen.

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Why His Business Travel Matters to Your Relationship

Angie Johnson — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 06:58:51 +0000

If you’re in a relationship with someone who travels a lot, then there are definitely a few questions that come to your mind. Can he still be faithful to me even when I’m not around? Can he not succumb to temptation when faces it? How can I ease my mind off about these issues when he’s away? Of course, most people would tell you that it all boils down to one thing — trust.

Ask yourself if you really trust your partner to be faithful to you at all times. Of course, you should have talked about this issue with your boyfriend or husband beforehand, telling him that infidelity is not acceptable. Thus, open communication is important to earn this trust. It would also help if any one of you would take the time to keep communication lines open. A few minutes spent over the phone or simple emails and text messages can do wonders.

Many women who are in the same situation mention that they are able to make their husbands faithful to them by packing sex toys in his luggage. These women think that when their partners have these male sex toys with them, there’s no need to look for women to fool around with.

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Dating: Taking it to the Next Level

Angie Johnson — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 00:55:29 +0000

Dating is just a precursor to something else, hopefully to the much-awaited next level. Whether you want to become exclusive or to get that ring around your finger, you shouldn’t just sit there and wait for the guy to do all the work. Here are some tips on how you can gently nudge your man to the next level of your relationship.

From dating around to dating one

If you want to go exclusive but you’re not sure if he’s really into you, try sending the signs that nothing has been set in stone yet. Try casually mentioning something like how the guy in the office seems to be on the verge of asking you out. If your guy wants to lay claim on you, he will react and seal the deal with you. But be careful though, letting on that you are quite busy with other guys can spark the wrong kind of impression about you.

From seeing someone to with someone

If you feel the word “like” morphing into another L word, then maybe it’s time to kick things up a notch. Even though guys freak out when they hear the L word, there is one thing that they fall for: compliments. Layer these up and sprinkle it with the L word such as “I love how you smell in the morning” while looking longingly in his eyes. You can also be more expressive in showing your appreciation for his efforts in showing that he really cares for you, such as wearing condoms for safer sex. Who knows, he may even beat you to saying it out loud.

From with someone right now to with someone forever

Steering your relationship to the road to marriage is a little difficult as men balk at the thought of settling down. You can start by hinting how you would like to have more fun with him when you move in together. If he looks forward to being with you forever, he’ll definitely pop the question.

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