There are times when making love seems to come naturally. You feel the urge. The ambience is perfect and the timing’s right. But then again, there are also those days when you’d rather just snuggle with a book or spend some time alone. The mood’s not there, and there seems to be nothing you can do about it.

This situation gets hard when your partner happens to be in the mood. One missed encounter or two may not mean a lot, but when this happens too often, it may affect your relationship. So what are you to do?

For one thing, you can set aside time to “make” the mood. Make this time count, regardless of your hormonal “reality.” A bubble bath, candles and wine can overpower your “not being in the mood” and create the perfect ambience for the perfect lovemaking. Using sexual aids such as pleasure beads may also help you get in the mood.

If all else fails and you really can’t, try to make up for it. Be there for your partner and try to give them the sexual satisfaction that he wants — even when you’re not getting some back.

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